Throughout life we are faced with many uncomfortable and unfavorable experiences. It is what we do with those situations that make us stronger. Every day we are given the choice to be strong, suck it up, and work past our difficulties. Unfortunately many times we break under the pressure, we become lost and find ourselves searching for satisfaction in all the wrong places, walking all over people and hurting the people that mean the most. We make up little white lies to make ourselves believe we are still in control.
How do we stay strong, centered and push through these road blocks? and How do we move forward and learn from our experiences and save ourselves the regrets? Remind yourself that there is a way out and it doesn’t have to be messy. Holding fast to the experience without distracting yourself will ease the pain. Initially you may feel uneasy but full awareness of the experience will allow you to deal with your tension. Filing the experience in the back of your mind will only make it more difficult to make amends with in the future.
Initially it’s beneficial to find time and space for yourself. Take time to write in a journal or sit alone and find peace in your mediation. It’s amazing what ten minutes of silence with yourself can do for you. It can teach you where the discomfort is emerging from, how to approach it, and the confidence to move on. Exercising is another way to work past the discomfort. Releasing endorphins will immediately lighten your mood and give you more motivation to move past barriers. Taking time to discover what you want to happen with the situation, as well as what the situation is trying to teach you is what will make the process more favorable.
Have you ever been in an unfavorable situation where you wanted to react immediately but instead took a few minutes to think it through. Remember how much more rational your reaction became? Just sitting for 3 minutes can make all the difference in your ability to properly access a situation.
Life will throw you a wealth of experiences, anything from: a lost job, a disagreement with a good friend, or an end to something you may thought was a “sure thing”. You must consciously choose how you will first observe and then overcome any experience big or small that you must face.
Realize that “This too shall pass.” and know that you are in charge of how you live your life as well as how you feel. No one can make you feel unworthy without your own consent. So take a step back and realize when life throws you lemons you are more than capable of making lemonade! :)